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Being Grateful is Being Wise: Afia Mansoor

Thursday, August 26th, 2010

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Humans live their lives in a strange dichotomy. Their bodily processes by default are running on a benevolent design that seems to be dictated by positive ness and function. But their minds are predisposed to a negative attitude towards life. 

 

Let me explain.

 

Most of us who have had a chance to study about the physiological processes of the body know that these run on a default system. For most of us fortunately, if we have a sprain our bones work towards healing. The tiny alveoli in the lungs keep letting the exchange of oxygen and carbon dioxide take place non stop. The pea sized pituitary gland controls several extremely crucial functions like our hunger, sleep, bowel movements without our knowledge. The whole of human anatomy is based on a design that helps us live. How many of us know for instance that the liver is covered with a layer of thin membrane without which we could die because of the friction between the liver and other organs? The body and its millions of processes are designed to work, unless they fall prone to disease.

 

And then modern research has begun to investigate how disease can actually also be caused by how we think and react to life around us.

 

Which brings us to our tricky friend; the mind.

 

This is perhaps the master conductor of our body over which we DO have a degree of control and fail to realize that. For many of us, the mind takes over as a script of its own and keeps playing it and ultimately directing our worldview according to this script.

 

For many us, the script is full of dysfunction, misery, pessimism, fear, guilt, anxiety, bitterness and the like.  Interestingly research has proved that the way we think affects and reinforces our decision and attitudes. For instance, people who have been in stressful situations without coping with them effectively may be prone to a state of mind that refuses to process information accurately in newer situations that demand quick decisions. Their hypothalamus (the part of the brain that processes information and responds to stressors) actually reduces in size because they have been living in a state of anxiety, stress, bitterness or fear for too long.

 

Now imagine a kidney that’s envious of its peer and refuses to do its work. Have you heard of a heart that’s too angry at the gut for occupying more space and decides to take up more space. Does that ever happen?

 

No because the body seems to be in a state of gracious surrender to DESIGN.

 

And if it does happen, it has to be because of how we have behaved, thought and lived our lives. That is when we remove our body from its natural state of function through our thoughts and attitudes.

 

What this means is that if we think and behave negatively and ungratefully, this pattern is removed from the benevolent and positive pattern of LIFE.

 

Consider for instance, how many things can go wrong in your body. Millions. But do they? How many things can possibly go wrong around you in a given moment but do they? Yes you could be hit by a meteor right now but how many times has it happened to you or your loved ones?

 

And so is their a need to worry needlessly about the future that has not even materialized yet? Or of a past that has long gone but you make it ever so powerful each time you delve in it forgetting your present reality.

 

We abuse our systems with a consistent train of ungrateful and unnecessary thoughts. What if the theory about 2012 really holds true? What if my three year old grows up in a recessive economy and does not get a job? What if I end up getting cancer like my neighbor’s niece? When will these awful summers go?  Why did that mean scoundrel treat me so nastily? I feel blekh today. Why me? Why not them?

 

For some the thoughts go on and on and on. I don’t mean to belittle legitimate grief other negative emotions. But shouldn’t they be a fleeting presence in the course of life, like the awful bump and itch on the nose from a mosquito bite? Never mind if these negative thoughts are legitimate or not. They are NOT the pattern of LIFE if they go on for just too long.  

 

Wouldn’t it just be a lot more easier on our systems to let go, to be grateful, to witness function around and in us and let it permeate through our thoughts?

 

Wouldn’t being grateful make us more attuned to what’s in and around us and make us decidedly more strong in living our lives?

 

Da Vinci; One of the most intelligent humans in history, spent a great deal of time brooding on the benevolence in human anatomy.

Da Vinci; One of the most intelligent humans in history, spent a great deal of time brooding on the benevolence in human anatomy.

 

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Leadership Intent Exercise 2: Fayruz Abrahams

Tuesday, August 10th, 2010

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Exercise to explore the impact of one’s INTENT on the emotional state one has at any point in time.

1)      Describe a noteworthy event (recent/within the last week)

2)      What was the most significant thing you did – that arose from the event

3)      Explore ALL the reasons you did this

a.       What was your agenda, list the full spectrum of reasons

b.      The more reasons you list, the better

4)      Categorise these reasons into “GET vs GIVE”

5)      Which category was predominant for you when you acted

6)      How did you feel and what were the implications for you in terms of:

a.       Security - Insecurity

b.      Fulfillment - Dissatisfaction

c.       Harmony - Conflict

d.      Power – Weak

Do you see any connection between your  motive in the action and the implications to yourself (in terms of how you felt).  If you had a different intent, would these feelings have been different?

Fostering Gratefulness in Children: Afia Mansoor

Monday, August 9th, 2010

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Young children are an unconditioned species.

 

Meaning to say, they do not carry enduring biases and do not show set patterns of responses to particular situations every time. They also adapt to new situations fairly quickly and have an inquisitive mind that’s open to learning.

 

That’s why it’s very easy to teach children particularly anything including emotional behavior.

 

Raising children to be grateful human beings has lifelong consequences. A grateful nature reflects an optimistic and positive mindset and such an emotional response is far more capable of dealing with ambiguous, challenging, dangerous and dynamic events. People who think positively are also able to move past trauma far sooner than ones who dwell on negativity and depression.

 

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1.     Encourage the child to say thank you and sorry at appropriate occasions. Doing so, will help the young one to accept the fact that good things come to us because others have been generous, and therefore it must be reinforced.

   

2.     Expose the child to the outdoors. Let him play in water, grass, sand, etc. Point out the beauty in nature to the child and appreciate it together. This will teach the child to be grateful for his visual senses. Show the child intricate details in a leaf, the designs on a bug and the majesty of a rain cloud to make him aware of the minutiae and the gigantic.

 

3.     Teach him a word that expresses appreciation each time he likes something around him or even on his plate. It could simply be a loud ‘WOW’. 

 

4.     Take the child to a zoo or sit with him through a wildlife exploratory film and explain how each animal’s physical attributes are suited to its role in the eco system. Do not call any particular animal ‘ugly’. They’re all beautiful if you observe them long enough.  

 

5.     Switch off the television while having food. Encourage the child to appreciate his favourite food verbally. Ask him what he likes about it, how does it feel in the mouth and what the aroma is like.

 

6.     Encourage the child to feel different textures and appreciate their difference. Tough fabrics helps us stay protected against harsh weather and soft ones make us feel cosy.

 

7.     Encourage the child to listen to fine music and appreciate it together in any way that comes naturally to the child.

 

8.     Every night ask the child to tell you what he should thank God for in his life. The answers should be different each time. You will see a boost of creativity in your child as he appreciates a great variety of things from candy to the cousins he has.

 

9.     Read out or make up stories which run around the theme of helping others. Grateful people have enough themselves to be able to help others.

 

10.                         Teach the child to take care of nature by encouraging him towards gardening. Gratefulness comes in big spurts when kids see seedlings sprouting, flower forming into fruits and ‘hungry’ plants devouring water!

 

11.                        Encourage your child to give away food, clothes or anything that can help someone else.

 

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As you go, you’ll learn more ways to encourage gratefulness in your child and be taught by his fresh approach in return!

Dr Happiness shares more Wisdom!

Monday, July 19th, 2010

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Sofia Kauko-Valli is a Social Entrepreneurship teacher at the University of Jyvaskyla, Finland. Due to her keen interest in areas of Happiness and spirituality, she runs a Happiness Clinic at her university and coaches people professionally on how to be happy!

We carried an article earlier on Sofia revealing the secrets of happiness. Now she talks about forgiveness, mindfulness and healing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

poetry How do you believe a fractured society can heal itself?

To me it all starts with you and me. If we want to heal the society we need to become the change we want to see and in a sense we need to rise up and take 100% responsibility for what is, even if it was handed to us by other people. I

It is important to understand that we are not isolated from each other but that we are part of a whole. If someone else is suffering it is not their problem only, it should be ours too because we all are connected to each other. I think healing follows when we stop thinking about ourselves only and about what we can get out of events and situations and start concentrating on what we can do, what we can change and what we can contribute to.

Although it may seem that the change is very slow in the beginning I think the breakthroughs will come quickly as more and more people become aware and concentrate on their own piece in the puzzle.

 

 

 

 

 

 

What aids forgiveness?

I really love this question. For me forgiveness was a really hard thing for so many years. When I felt offended I could not imagine forgiving the other person because I felt it was so unfair - they would not get what they deserve and they would get off the hook somehow. It took me a long time to realize that holding onto offence came with a high price, namely growing bitterness. I reached my personal breakthrough when someone defined unforgiveness as - drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. How true that was. While I was simmering in my grudges the other person went happily about their life not maybe even realizing they had been an offence in the first place.

The other thing that really helped me was to understand my own need for forgiveness. I have come to the conclusion that it really is easy to forgive if you understand that unforgiveness only hurts your own life and concentrate more on your own walk than on the faults of others.


What is mindfulness and how can one achieve it?

To me mindfulness is all about being actively aware and present in the Here and Now. I don’t really know how others describe it, but to me it is all about presence. I think for many people, especially those who have adopted the western crazy lifestyle, being present with all of your senses, soul, spirit & body is really hard. The mind has a race on its own. Either constantly rehashing some past events and situations or thinking about what will be in the future.

In a sense we are never in the present as part of us is constantly somewhere else. Being mindful to me is very healing and invigorating. Achieving mindfulness is also easy although it takes some practice. You can do it anywhere, in any kind of situation. The most mundane tasks - like washing dishes by hand - can be made into a mindfulness exercise. The point is to captivate your thoughts, to silence them and choose to be in the here-and-now experiencing what is going on with all of your senses. For instance, if you have a habit of worrying you can tell yourself that you will most certainly worry on Tuesdays between 1 and 2 pm and let go of the worry thoughts and come back into the Here-and-Now. It takes some practice but finding a place of just being, being without judgments or expectations, just experiencing what is, is well worth it.

So often in life we seem to forget that we really were created to be human beings - just being alive and aware, instead of always doing something, always trying to achieve something.

Is success in life linked to spirituality in your opinion?


Yes. I think so. Spirituality to me is all about finding meaning and purpose in life regardless of what form the practice of your daily spiritual life takes. The most successful people seem to know this and really live a life that is in line with their strengths and values in life. You could say that they live authentic lives. To me spirituality is also about connection - being connected to oneself, to other people around yourself and to something far greater than oneself, whatever you like to call it.

 

Personal Excellence Program in Karachi, Pakistan

Saturday, May 29th, 2010

Etsko Schuitema conducted a 2-day Personal Excellence Program in Karachi, Pakistan on 26 and 27 April 2010.

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The first day of the programme covered Maturation and Transactional Correctness while the second day explored the theme; Who am I / The Growth Process. The 12 participants who belonged to professions ranging from IT to education, found the workshop a stimulating experience that enabled them to rethink their attitude to self, life and others.  

Training the Mind to be Happy

Saturday, April 24th, 2010

 

 

 

gratefulnessWe discussed in The Dynamics of Depression, that an individual with depression has an altered brain chemistry and even structure. However, this can be controlled and changed for the better if the individual resolves and sticks to a positive change.  

 

 

The key to managing unhappiness is to train the mind towards positive thinking. Friends and family can go a long way in helping an unhappy individual towards optimism but in the end, the individual has to make the effort towards recovery.

 

  

  

Modern science has made great headway in understanding the power of the human mind over body and yet it’s incredible how this powerful mind is subservient to the human will. For all its power, the mind can be trained too ‘see’ invisible stimuli, process sounds differently, increase intelligence and can even be trained to ‘aid’ forgetting trauma!

 

Working with the Attention

 

The thing to understand here is that what really matters is the kind of attention an individual pays to life. For a depressed person, life is a set of situations that bring fear, anxiety, sorrow or guilt. The more an individual of this mindset ‘holds onto’ what s/he wants rather than what is, the needier and unhappier s/he gets. The happiest of people in the world have not lived lives free of trauma, but they have learned to move on by giving attention to the benevolence of life around them. Life goes on.

  

 

The fact that each of our body cells is replaced every three months is testament to that. So in effect when we ‘hold’ onto things rather than free flow, we are torturing our own configuration. The fact that our brain cells can regenerate and help to erase painful memories is actually one of the least known and most phenomenal finds of our time. It testifies to the fact that the Design is Benevolent.      

 

The key therefore to changing the mindset, is how you engage your Attention.

 

A simple and great tool to train the mind towards optimism and positive ness is counting your blessings.

 

 

 

 

Count Your Blessings 

prayerofgratitudeSchuitema uses the ‘Count your Blessings’ exercise in various programmes along with other exercises that help beat the victim mindset and helps one to be more reflective and appreciative of life.

 

We have found that the ‘Count your Blessings’ exercise can bring significant help if youngsters carry it out. In our first Mentoring for Mastery workshop, the young participants were given a large poster sheet each and asked to list down things they were thankful for.

 

The first time that the kids did it, we observed that the listings were rather ‘typical’. For instance, Fakhir Shah the facilitator gave the cue that he was thankful that he was alive. Nearly all the children wrote that as the first item they thankful for. They then moved on to food, family, and belongings.

 

As the list grew longer, and kids stopped peering over their shoulders to see what others were writing, the entries became more interesting like ‘I am thankful that I get to watch movies at the cinema’, or ‘I am thankful that I have been in a chairlift’ and, ‘I am thankful that I can smell with my nose and see with my eyes.’

 

We found that the exercise is effective if done repeatedly. This was because the entries became more original and subtler towards the end from the copied and crude ones in the beginning. Cultivating gratitude in our lives is therefore a process that needs to be regularly adopted for the mind to be trained to see things with optimism.

Some of our participants appreciated the exercise as according to them, it had set the ball rolling for the mind to think positively.

 

Internalising Happiness

happyIt helps if the blessings that have been listed are felt with all your being to internalize them in your mind.

If you are thankful for having a house with lots of greenery in it, then imagine being surrounded by that greenery. Imagine the bees and butterflies busily doing their work in your garden. Imagine the sun’s light filtering through the trees or he lovely interplay of colours on the leaves before you.

If you are thankful for having running water in your house, imagine drinking it and even bathing in it with rivulets running from your wet hair. In time, you will be ‘present’ and grateful while actually sitting in your garden or taking a bath.

The trick in beating depression is engaging the attention to feed the mind with positive ideas, images and monologue.

If you are persistent, you will begin to feel better and healthier very soon!  

 

The Dynamics of Depression

Thursday, April 22nd, 2010

 

depression-1Psychologists agree that there is a common trait in people who are unhappy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

They tend to have a negative pattern of thinking that is often hooked to some event(s) in the past or the future, or in other words, is removed from the present. It could be a desire to look younger, or recalling a traumatic event repeatedly. Over a period of time, this pattern can take cognitive roots and turn into clinical depression.

 

 

 

 

 

Thinking hooked to the past arouses feelings of guilt, resentment and sorrow. While thoughts hooked to the future cause feelings like anxiety, phobias, fear, stress and sadness.

 

 

 The biggest killer of our times, research says, is depression or unhappiness per se. In the U.S.A, one of the most affluent societies on the planet, a recent study sponsored by the World Health Organization and the World Bank found unipolar major depression to be the leading cause of disability in the United States. Prevalence of depression is approximately 1 in 18 or 5.30% or 14.4 million people in USA. (1).

The total annual cost of depression in Europe was estimated at Euro 118 billion in 2004, which corresponds to a cost of Euro 253 per inhabitant. Direct costs alone totalled dollar 42 billion, and comprised of outpatient care (Euro 22 billion), drug cost (Euro 9 billion) and hospitalization (Euro 10 billion). Indirect costs due to morbidity and mortality were estimated at Euro 76 billion. This makes depression the most costly brain disorder in Europe, accounting for 33% of the total cost. The cost of depression corresponds to 1% of the total economy of Europe (GDP). (2)

 

In developing countries where stark poverty reigns with stunning affluence, the figures of unhappiness could be even more alarming.

 

What makes unhappiness particularly dangerous is that it takes root within an individual’s body and branches off into a plethora of diseases that range from colds and flu to Cancer. There is no arguing now that depression has a great role to play in lowering the body’s natural immune system against diseases.  

 

Most of us know that depressed people have chemical imbalances in the brain. To many this seems to be a situation that cannot be alleviated by the depressed individual. Some depressed people start considering themselves as victims and blame their episodes of anxiety and gloom on their brain’s chemical disposition. A startling study however, that has emerged in recent times reveals that individuals with depression CAN alter their brain’s imbalanced state towards balance!

 

Dr Bob Murray and Dr Alici Fortinberry write in their article, “Healing Depression Safely without Antidepressants”:

 

We now (also) know that the brains of depressed people are not only out of balance chemically, they also tend to have a smaller hippocampus, which controls emotions and memory, and a less active frontal cortex, the command-and-decision making center. The good news is that we can “grow” new brain cells in those areas, through a process called neurogenesis. (3)

 

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Neurogenesis or the birth of new cells in the brain, relieves chemical imbalances and hence chronic depression. Stress, or how we respond to different situations, has a great role in increasing chemical imbalances in our brain.(4)

 

This really means that one needs to ‘train’ the mind into seeing things in a way that moves the attention from stress to relaxation.

 

Read on our next post on Gratitude Journaling to see how this can be achieved!

 

References:

(1)http://www.depressionperception.com/depression/depression_facts_and_statistics.asp

(2)http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17007486

(3)http://www.upliftprogram.com/article_together.html

(4)http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neurogenesis

 

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Dr Happiness Tells the Secret of Joy

Friday, March 19th, 2010

 

 

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Have you ever come across a doctor who specifically coaches and guides you towards attaining happiness? Well there is one in Finland and her name is Sofia Kauko-Valli.

 

Sofia teaches entrepreneurship at the University of Jyvaskyla, Finland and also runs a Happiness Clinic at the university. She shares interesting facts about her area of interest:

 

 

You’ve researched largely on happiness. Could you dwell upon this interest and your findings?

Believe or not I started by studying stress and anxiety. I even wrote a book on that. However it turned out that as a result of constantly being involved in something very negative I started to feel miserable as well. It was a sign for me that it was time to change viewpoint. At the same time there was this major shift in the field of psychology and something called positive psychology emerged as a result.

 

In essence positive psychology is an attempt to balance the psychological view on us humans by concentrating on the positive side of functionality, looking at what already works. This line of research brought a host of topics to the forefront of study - happiness being one of them. In my own studies I have found that entrepreneurship as a choice tends to lead to happiness more often than being employed by someone else. Especially in the current time and age we live in, entrepreneurship gives you more flexibility on one hand and somewhat surprisingly a better sense of safety - both of which are essential for happiness and well-being.

 

What is the Key to Happiness?

One of the most surprising facts about happiness seems to be that most of it is created between our ears. What does it mean? Simply that what we choose to think about on a daily basis and what we concentrate on either leads us to a sense of satisfaction and happiness or into some kind of despair.

 

Happiness is not about our circumstances or about money as much as it is about what we choose to think about. In this sense each one of us can make ourselves extremely happy anytime we like. One of the quickest roads to sense of happiness is experiencing gratitude so it really pays off each day to think about the things that you have been given, the favors, the blessings and wonderful things that surround you on a daily basis.

 

Could you tell us about your work as the Dr Happiness?

When I received my PhD in Economics with the concentration on happiness, I wanted to do something highly practical with the knowledge that I had accumulated over the years so I started a virtual doctor’s office for anyone who would like to know about techniques to a happier and more fulfilling life. There is a sliding scale fee and I also do a lot of pro bono work just for the fun of it. I have run groups for women where I live and it has been wonderful to see how lives change as a result of knowing and applying some simple techniques to your everyday situations.

 

Which people are the easiest to be happy and which are the toughest ones?

I think it is very much about openness and ability to learn new things. If you have the ability to feel grateful you are well on your way to happiness. Taking yourself lightly helps a lot too in the process - it is easier to feel happy if you are not constantly worried about the impression you make and your position or the titles given to you. I think it is very hard for people who feel entitled, who are full of themselves (me, myself and I-lifestyle), who constantly think about what they can get (instead of what they can give and contribute) and who are bitter to find happiness in life.



Schuitema Hero - Mussarat Piracha

Wednesday, March 17th, 2010

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There are people who achieve greatness simply by living life to fullest in their own set of circumstances. Success is not to do great things all the time but to do things in a great way. The following is an excerpt from a memorium article on a lady who defied the convention of her time in dealing with her physical condition and chose to ‘give’ in whatever way she could. This has been taken from the original article written by Saira Dar and published in Dawn Newspaper Pakistan on December 26, 2008.
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Mussarat Piracha’s passing away at the age of 65 was a source of deep sadness for so many of her friends and family members. An individual who defied not only disability but also death at more than one occasion, it was hard to believe that she now finally was no more, and her fruitful yet turbulent life had come to an end. Yet the fact that she passed away on Eid ul Azha (a day of worship and celebration for Muslims), proved that Providence had marked her as extraordinary till the very end.

Born in a well to do family, Mussarat was the sixth daughter of Sheikh Fazal Illahi Piracha, who in his lifetime served as a civil servant with the Indian Civil Service during the British rule and later joined politics, holding various prestigious offices. He was among the rare breed of Pakistani politicians who shunned material gains and equated politics with public service.

Of his nine children, eight of whom were daughters, Mussarat was both a source of joy and tribulation. When she was just a few months old, she was afflicted with the crippling disease of polio, which resulted in irreparable damage to her legs and feet, making her unable to walk. It was indeed a trial for the family to see this beautiful child become ‘disabled’ and to know that she could never enjoy a ‘normal life’.

Mussarat was to prove them wrong, and her zest for leading a full life surpassed even that of those who had no disability. In those days, there was no school that would admit a child with a handicap, but Mussarat was determined to educate herself. She eventually joined a small school near her home and in due course became an avid reader and writer, her special interest being Urdu and Punjabi literature.

Her brilliant and incisive mind coupled with a wonderful sense of humour and a humanistic approach made her a favourite amongst many highly educated and literary luminaries of Pakistan. She went on to write a moving novel in Urdu titled Pukar (Call), the content of which was partly biographical. The novel not only found favour in local literary circles but was translated into a number of foreign languages.

She later wrote another book in Urdu called Ajeeb Larki (A Strange Girl), which was a highly interesting account of her travel to England in the hope of improving her condition. She came back rejuvenated in spirit even though her condition was not altered much in physical terms. She also now had a motor operated wheelchair as opposed to one which required another person to take her around, and this gave her a greater sense of independence.

Mussarat’s most remarkable achievement, however, was a school she set up in Lahore. She was fully supported by her parents in this endeavour, but it was her own determination which made the school what it was, and the quality of education imparted to many young people, at nominal charges or even free of cost, was remarkable. “Mussarat Piracha’s Home” as the school came to be known, became a unique institution in the vicinity and was a truly happy place to be in, both for the students and the staff.

Mussarat’s personal life was no less remarkable. She defied conventional expectations and ended up as a very happily married woman, with a wonderful husband and caring in-laws, a blessing at times denied to perfectly ‘normal’ women. Such was the chamr nad strength of this lady that her husband stated recently, “Mussarat was my choice and I never regretted it.”

Not only did Mussarat marry, she even produced two lovely children even though doctors had declared that in her condition, pregnancy would be a hazard to her life. However, she was resolute in her faith and suffered long drawn hospitalisation and painful procedures to turn her dream of having children come true.

green-heartFate, however, was to put her to test again. One day, as she ventured out on her wheelchair with her maid, just to crossover from her home to her newly constructed school building, she was hit in the back by two supposedly stray bullets. Death stared her in the face, but she was determined to live. I remember her telling me, “It was as if I fought the angel of death, and told God that come what may I was going to live for my children.”

And so she lived, but paid a price for it. Being unable to walk had not been as much f a problem as the pain of this seemingly senseless affliction. Her life became a struggle with untold pain and her determination to live despite it was almost superhuman. For more than fifteen years, se became more or less bedridden, struggling through with incessant medical procedures and medicines to ease her suffering. She shifted her home within the school premises and supervised the school, while lying in bed. She carried on with her work till the school became impossible to run, more so because of financial reasons as most of the students expected to enroll for free.

At her funeral, there were people from various strata of life each of whom had a heartwarming story about Mussarat being a joy and inspiration. One recent addition to her household was a tiny girl from a poor family who had shown the keenness to study and whom Mussarat had volunteered to educate. This bright young child was moving around the house as if it were her own, keenly catering to the needs of the guests like a family member. Perhaps she was the last recipient of Mussarat’s benevolence, along with her own two children, who are now highly educated adults, both having studied abroad, thanks to the generosity of their mother who was willing to part with both of them for the sake of their education.

Indeed she will live on through them.

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What Journaling Helps You Achieve

Tuesday, March 16th, 2010

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Leonardo Da Vinci was one of the most genius men that ever lived. He was in perpetual awe of the Present and gained tremendous inspiration from his surroundings. We know this because he chronicled his awe towards significance in his diaries. It is said that he carried his journal wherever he went and noted down insights as and when they came. The man whose artistic and scientific exploration has continued to marvel us to date was aware of his own growth and maturation through his journals.

 

This is what journals can help you achieve:  

 

Identify the Design in your Life – Journaling helps you to see the ‘wood for the trees’. It helps you to see that a string of events helped you to be where you are in the present moment. You begin to see a design emerge from the apparently random events in your life. The design that you begin is see is marvelous because you could not have conspired 15 years ago to make yourself who you are right now. And over a period of time you realise that what IS is exceedingly better than what you wanted and could not be. You begin to trust life.

 

Read the Text of your Life – With time you will notice that a certain set of situations in your life are recurrent. And as you observe further, you will realize that something in your own behavior or attitude brings them on. So if you have attracted bullies left, right and centre you might have a problem of trying to please others, or not being able to say NO or being unsure of yourself. Each of us is unique and each of us have our own distinct ‘Text’. Only we can unravel it and move on to the next level. Journaling will help       you read that text.   

 

Better Decision Making – As you approach life with a sense of gratitude and trust, you will be able to make decisions that have the right balance of reason and emotion. Journaling helps you see situations with hindsight. And the ‘design’ will help you develop a foresight.

 

A Reflective Demeanour – Numerous conflicts around the world can be solved if those who are engaged in them, use their hindsight and foresight to reflect upon their intent and actions. We can improve only when we realise that we have done before could be done better, and journaling can help achieve this reflective atttitude. It is quite like a car manufacturer improvising on the make after using, and reflecting, on the previous model.  

 

Read Journaling - Seeing Significance in the Seemingly Mundane on the Schuitema Blog for tips of how to write a journal.   

One of Da Vinci's many journals

One of Da Vinci's many journals